Hello everyone. I hope you’re doing great. I think we can agree that when I’m out of ideas, I start the blog by saying, “welcome to another mindless rant”. Well, this is exactly that!
On a totally unrelated note, I’ve realised that I am getting bad at my introductions. Do you think so too? Lmk if I have and I’d appreciate any tips for improvement.
Although things are coming back to normal in certain areas since the pandemic, some other areas are getting worse than you’ve possibly imagined, iykyk🤷.
However, one thing which I’ve experienced a lot during this pandemic was being unmotivated. It’s honestly one of the worst feelings ever! One thing I’ve associated with being unmotivated is that there isn’t always a reason to it. It just happens, out of the blue. And although it just comes in randomly, it takes a while to go away. And those periods of being totally unmotivated can be really annoying and frustrating.
It is said that a way to get out of these periods of complete “no motivation” is by doing something you really love and which makes you happy. It could be a hobby or spending time with your friends and family. However, we so often look at motivators as things which are really positive, like some of the things I mentioned above. No one really talks about negative motivation, it’s quite underrated. However, I believe that many times we do things because our negative motivators are more powerful than our positive motivators.
One big negative motivator that we’ve probably faced with at some point in our lives is fear. Fear goes under the radar quite a lot. And I get it, it’s not really everyone’s piece of cake to admit that they are afraid. But fear drives a lot of things we do in our lives and a lot of things we experience in our lives.
The fear of missing out, or fomo, is something everyone has experienced. And it doesn’t need to be about something that’s super important. Knowing that your close friends are making more friends than you, knowing that the person who didn’t do so good at school is now in a better position than you. All these things can make you feel “Am I doing something wrong? Is there something wrong with me that all these good things aren’t happening to me? Will I fall back because I’m not experiencing new and interesting things like my peers?”
In all honesty, I’ve felt these things. I’m not really sure if it’s smart of me to reveal these things openly, but this is my safe space so I’m willing to risk it (I’ve noticed I have said this in many of my blogs 🤦♀️). This fear may, at times, cause me to exert myself so much because I feel that even in the minimum that I do, if I do it the best that I can, I will be in equal standing with everyone.
In this way, fear may inspire people to a lot of things. Fear of being behind everyone else, being replaced, not reaching your goals, fear of loneliness, etc.
Fear drives us way more than we realise. I’m not really sure if this is a good thing or not. The two extremes would be that fear of what may happen in the future may push you to get better and get your act together, which works in your favour. On the other hand, fear being a negative motivator may lead to negative consequences.
Since fear is so powerful, it is important that we realise that it may be driving our actions. Sometimes admitting that fear is causing you to do something definitely does give you some closure and doesn’t allow you to reap it’s harmful effect. When we shy away from admitting that we are fearful, we allow that emotion to engulf us completely. However, I can write whatever I want but it’s really difficult to admit that you’re afraid. Being vulnerable ain’t so easy. How do you get over this fear or admitting you’re afraid? I don’t really know that. That’s something I’ve gotta figure out too.
That was kinda intense, right? I think so. This is a really unusual topic that I’ve spoken about today and I’m glad I did. I hope this made sense and that it made you think a little. Is fear governing your actions? It’s a tough question but worth pondering on.
This post is quite dark I feel. Very unlike me. But that’s that. I hope you enjoyed reading this post and I’ll post more thought contents soon. Bye!!
